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105. 5 Tips To Act More Confident

I wouldn’t call myself shy but I’m just as anxious as anyone else about how to act at important social occasions. I hate bring stuck in a room with unfamiliar people who I’m supposed to impress and charm with my wit and humour. But sometimes it’s just necessary. I’ve come up with a few tips that’ll give you a confidence boost and they’re not wishy washy stuff like ‘be yourself’ because my god if we did that, they’d probably run for the hills.

1. Dress the part

You need to shed the clothes you usually wear- they’re too associated with your usual socially awkward self. Wear something new, something different, something flattering that’ll make you feel good about yourself. Ladies, put on your favourite underwear. No-one else will see it (or maybe they will, who knows what kind of occasion this is) but you’ll know in your head that you look hella fine and it’ll shine through in your body language. Guys, wear something tailored.

2. Find your inner gangster

Love them or hate them, gangsters are confident to the point of being obnoxious. The point is if you can find your inner gangster, you can tap into that confidence store. For me, the best way to do this is through music. Find a song that makes you feel like a #BOSS and perform it. If you can’t sing, mime. Give your mirror the best performance of its life. Be careful though- you don’t want to start putting up your middle finger and yelling YOLO if you’re attending a formal do. Let’s leave that shit to Drake.
Song Suggestions: I’m On One- DJ Khaled, Do it like a dude- Jessie J, Pour it Up- Rihanna but anything about sex, money and general bragging works here.

WEEZY

3. Practice rapping

My last tip was to help your mental confidence and body language but this one will help with your speech. There’s nothing worse than getting nervous and stuttering or fumbling over your words but you’ll do this a lot less if you can rap (or at least try to!). If you can nail Busta Rhymes’ verse from ‘Look at me Now’ (if you haven’t heard it- it’s ridiculously fast), then you deserve a recording contract and you’ll have no problem getting the words out in a conversation.
Song Suggestions: Just lose it- Eminem, Move that body- Nelly, Look at me now- Chris Brown but anything fast paced is good.

4. Read and form opinions

Watch the news. Read magazines. Just be up to date about what’s going on in the world. That way if the conversation dries up, you have some back up topics. Basically if you’re speaking about something sensible you’ll instantly look more confident (as long as you don’t go all verbal diarrhoea). I find that sport, popular TV shows and gossip are good hooks.

5. Be Optimistic

Not only do pessimistic people annoy me but usually their lack of faith in things is a reflection of their lack of faith in themselves. That’s not attractive. You want to appear positive and you can do this by implementing small changes in your body language. Look people in the eye. Keep your back straight and your head held high. Don’t fold your arms. Find the humour in things and don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself but most importantly; smile (or at least don’t frown) even if things go wrong.

Gah he’s so cute!

There you have it. I am by no means an amazingly confident person but I find that these things help me and maybe they’ll help some of you.

Over and Out!

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90. The day before the end

It’s the night before my final exam. At this point, I’m not even that fussed how tomorrow goes as long as it’s over quickly. I probably ought to have done more revision considering I need a minor miracle to balance out the mess that were my others exams…instead I decided to make this…an oragami dress. I think it’s pretty cute.

Finally got around to using my oragami paper!

The folds as seen on the back

Over and Out!

[Edit]

A few people wanted to try this for themselves. Here’s the site I used- it’s really good and the instructions are clear. Have fun!

http://www.howcast.com/videos/510914-How-to-Make-a-Dress-Origami

80. Exam Complaints

I don’t want to be one of those people who’s always banging on about their exams but this blog is for my thoughts and they’re all I can think about right now. I apologise.

2 papers are out of the way and they went okay. Could have been better. Could have been worse. I’ve resolved not to think about them anymore and just to focus on the next hurdle… which is Group Theory on Monday.

I took Group Theory because my second year project was related to it and I thought I’d have a headstart in the module. I guess I did… for all of 2 weeks and then I was as lost as everyone else. However I don’t regret taking it. Some of the proofs in it are exceedingly clever and I found the course overall really interesting.

But I really don’t want to do an exam on it. There are 65 proofs in the course and I probably couldn’t memorize them all even if I had a lifetime. I am praying the stuff I know comes up and not some obscure lemma that I glanced over.

The questions will supposedly be structured as following: 1 or 2 parts which are directly from lectures (eg. proofs and definitions) and another 1 or 2 parts which is some unseen/ seen similar application.
The lecturer might think he’s being uber generous giving us stuff directly from lectures but the truth is if you remember it, it’s all well and good but if you don’t then you are royally screwed. You can’t blag it and you can’t ‘work it out’. It will usually mean that you can’t do the rest of the question either.
Say you can do the first part of the question, that is no guarantee that you can do the second part and ‘apply’ it. Most of the time, there is some sneaky trick. If you see it, EPIC WIN. If you don’t, may God have mercy on your soul because you’re going to need a miracle to answer the question without said trick.

In many of the questions, he’ll ask us to work something out and that we can use ‘any results from lectures as long as they are stated clearly’ to help. This sounds good right? WRONG. These kinds of questions are awful. In the mock paper he asked a question like that and he ended up using four facts from three different chapters, put them all together and claimed BAM! answer. HOW! How do I know which facts to bloody extract?!

*sigh*. I’ll do what I can.

Over and Out!

72. Get me a hot water bottle and some ice cream dammit.

Literally overnight I have gone from energetic to lethargic and drowsy. I haven’t even done anything. Body, why are you doing this to me?! This is not what I need right now.

I am so tired. My eyes keep closing. My back hurts. My head hurts. I’m getting flushes.  My muscles (lol) feel like they’re aching. Even my joints are hurting. Particularly my ankles.

(I’m not pregnant.)

(I think.)

(jk)

(I learnt my lesson after last time.)

(I’m joking, I’m joking.)

Ehhhhhhhh I’ve started talking to myself.

Get me a hot water bottle and some ice cream dammit.

This is a really crap post. I’m sorry. I’m tired.

Over and *yawn* Out.

P.S My mum took a picture of me mid yawn today and my god it’s butterz. I was going to share it but I figured you guys didn’t want to see my tonsils.