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105. 5 Tips To Act More Confident

I wouldn’t call myself shy but I’m just as anxious as anyone else about how to act at important social occasions. I hate bring stuck in a room with unfamiliar people who I’m supposed to impress and charm with my wit and humour. But sometimes it’s just necessary. I’ve come up with a few tips that’ll give you a confidence boost and they’re not wishy washy stuff like ‘be yourself’ because my god if we did that, they’d probably run for the hills.

1. Dress the part

You need to shed the clothes you usually wear- they’re too associated with your usual socially awkward self. Wear something new, something different, something flattering that’ll make you feel good about yourself. Ladies, put on your favourite underwear. No-one else will see it (or maybe they will, who knows what kind of occasion this is) but you’ll know in your head that you look hella fine and it’ll shine through in your body language. Guys, wear something tailored.

2. Find your inner gangster

Love them or hate them, gangsters are confident to the point of being obnoxious. The point is if you can find your inner gangster, you can tap into that confidence store. For me, the best way to do this is through music. Find a song that makes you feel like a #BOSS and perform it. If you can’t sing, mime. Give your mirror the best performance of its life. Be careful though- you don’t want to start putting up your middle finger and yelling YOLO if you’re attending a formal do. Let’s leave that shit to Drake.
Song Suggestions: I’m On One- DJ Khaled, Do it like a dude- Jessie J, Pour it Up- Rihanna but anything about sex, money and general bragging works here.


3. Practice rapping

My last tip was to help your mental confidence and body language but this one will help with your speech. There’s nothing worse than getting nervous and stuttering or fumbling over your words but you’ll do this a lot less if you can rap (or at least try to!). If you can nail Busta Rhymes’ verse from ‘Look at me Now’ (if you haven’t heard it- it’s ridiculously fast), then you deserve a recording contract and you’ll have no problem getting the words out in a conversation.
Song Suggestions: Just lose it- Eminem, Move that body- Nelly, Look at me now- Chris Brown but anything fast paced is good.

4. Read and form opinions

Watch the news. Read magazines. Just be up to date about what’s going on in the world. That way if the conversation dries up, you have some back up topics. Basically if you’re speaking about something sensible you’ll instantly look more confident (as long as you don’t go all verbal diarrhoea). I find that sport, popular TV shows and gossip are good hooks.

5. Be Optimistic

Not only do pessimistic people annoy me but usually their lack of faith in things is a reflection of their lack of faith in themselves. That’s not attractive. You want to appear positive and you can do this by implementing small changes in your body language. Look people in the eye. Keep your back straight and your head held high. Don’t fold your arms. Find the humour in things and don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself but most importantly; smile (or at least don’t frown) even if things go wrong.

Gah he’s so cute!

There you have it. I am by no means an amazingly confident person but I find that these things help me and maybe they’ll help some of you.

Over and Out!

92. Life After Exams

I realise I’ve been quiet for a while. I’d like to say it was because I’ve been partying like a mofo but the boring truth is that I’ve been stuck writing up a project. I thought your exams were finished I hear you say?! Well they are, but this is some left over stuff I have to do as consolation for doing one less exam than my peers.

This project is basically about how mathematics is taught at the secondary school I visited every week last term. It was (mostly) fun visiting the school and working with the kids but writing about it is hella boring. I feel like I’m doing sooo much bullshitting and for someone who likes to be concise, I find this painful. I find myself saying things like ‘oh the teacher put up the learning objectives right at the beginning of the lesson so the pupils knew what to expect’. Please someone gimme a gold medal for this invaluable insight.

We’re also supposed to sing our praises and I always find this uncomfortable even when I’m proud of what I’ve done. I feel like I either go two ways; totally understating my achievements or sounding really cocky. So I’ll either end up writing ‘I think the students quite enjoyed the lesson’ or ‘Hell Yeah I was born to teach. These kids are gonna remember this lesson for the rest of their lives yo’. I need to find a happy medium.

On the plus side, the weather has been totally gorgeous. I’m currently sitting outside in the garden lying on the grass, basking in the rays and trying to avoid a tan (because I’m brown).

Oh yeah, I’m also in the process of trying to find a supervisor for my fourth year project. I’m currently trying to decide between three lecturers. This is a really important decision for me because my supervisor will be the one to write my reference and they’ll also be guiding me through my project which is a worth a substantial proportion of my final year. It’s also heavily influential in determining degree classes if you’re borderline, which I am. I’m currently on the wrong side between a 2:1 and a First. Sad times.

Additionally I’m trying to decide whether it’ll be a good idea to do a project on group theory which is very ‘pure’ but the mathematics is beautiful. It’ll probably be the last time I get to really appreciate the intricacies within proofs…or I could do a project more statistics related which would be more relevant considering my career aspirations (and it’ll pimp my CV). Same old story. Follow the heart or the brain? My gut is siding with brain right now.

In other news:

  • Today I hit 15 million on Neopets. Awww Yeah. I see y’all looking at me enviously wishing you had my virtual money.
  • I watched the latest episode of Game of Thrones yesterday and I had to sit there for five minutes rocking backwards and forwards with my head in my hands to deal with the trauma from the Red Wedding. I am still devastated.
  • I was crushed against some random guy’s butt for the duration of my journey on the Bakerloo line today. Unwanted contact. Highly unpleasant experience.

Over and Out!


  1. Using blue pen instead of black
  2. Not removing your USB safely
  3. Putting cucumber in a fruit salad
  4. Eating After 8’s before 8
  5. Doing your maths homework in pen
  6. Talking in the silent section
  7. Not minding the gap before you get off the train
  8. Standing in front of the yellow line on the platform
  9. Eating crunchies in the silent section
  10. Dividing zero by zero
  11. Leaving out the constant of integration when integrating
  12. Ringing the bell for your bus stop and not getting off
  13. Eating only 4 pieces of fruit and veg a day
  14. Singing rolling in the deep in the shallow end
  15. Buying 11 items in the express queue
  16. Using degrees instead of radians
  17. Not using commas in a list
  18. Wearing red on St Patrick’s day
  19. Not smoking in the smoker’s section
  20. Drinking only 1.99 litres of water a day

#SWAG #YOLO #shinebrightlikeadiamond #bestpostevaaa #hatersgonhate #hashtag

(Muchos gracias James, Shakira and Dania for the ideas)

Over and Out!